Comments on: Ask and You Shall Receive…Just be Prepared to Receive http://www.cruseit.com/2008/11/ask-and-you-shall-receive%e2%80%a6just-be-prepared-to-receive/ views on the information technology industry, management, & life Thu, 04 Mar 2010 13:02:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Simon Stapleton http://www.cruseit.com/2008/11/ask-and-you-shall-receive%e2%80%a6just-be-prepared-to-receive/comment-page-1/#comment-190 Simon Stapleton Thu, 20 Nov 2008 17:01:32 +0000 http://www.cruseit.com/?p=1189#comment-190 I know what you mean Michael! It's a fine line between really wanting to help someone you care about by giving them feedback you don't like, and not giving it to them to prevent hurting feelings. A conundrum of complexity. It really depends on the emotional maturity of the recipient. People who give the best feedback can assess this through their Emotional Intelligence (EQ). Without EQ, giving feedback is like walking through a minefield... I know what you mean Michael! It’s a fine line between really wanting to help someone you care about by giving them feedback you don’t like, and not giving it to them to prevent hurting feelings. A conundrum of complexity. It really depends on the emotional maturity of the recipient. People who give the best feedback can assess this through their Emotional Intelligence (EQ). Without EQ, giving feedback is like walking through a minefield…

]]> By: Michael Cruse http://www.cruseit.com/2008/11/ask-and-you-shall-receive%e2%80%a6just-be-prepared-to-receive/comment-page-1/#comment-184 Michael Cruse Thu, 20 Nov 2008 13:53:55 +0000 http://www.cruseit.com/?p=1189#comment-184 Simon, I am currently participating in our annual review process and coaching program. Peer reviews and feedback have been part of both programs, and I can already start see the changes in myself and the team as a result of feedback process. When people believe in the process and trust one another, the results are quickly achieved. Personally, giving feedback is much harder then receiving feedback. The last thing I want to do is damage a relationship because a person takes the provided feedback the wrong way. I have attempted to be very aware of the words I use to give feedback so the message is clear without seeming to be harsh or condescending. One thing that I am beginning to realize is the roll of communication and how that alters peer perception of skills and abilities. I think this will be a post I will start to work on. Simon,

I am currently participating in our annual review process and coaching program. Peer reviews and feedback have been part of both programs, and I can already start see the changes in myself and the team as a result of feedback process. When people believe in the process and trust one another, the results are quickly achieved.

Personally, giving feedback is much harder then receiving feedback. The last thing I want to do is damage a relationship because a person takes the provided feedback the wrong way. I have attempted to be very aware of the words I use to give feedback so the message is clear without seeming to be harsh or condescending.

One thing that I am beginning to realize is the roll of communication and how that alters peer perception of skills and abilities. I think this will be a post I will start to work on.

]]> By: Simon Stapleton http://www.cruseit.com/2008/11/ask-and-you-shall-receive%e2%80%a6just-be-prepared-to-receive/comment-page-1/#comment-183 Simon Stapleton Thu, 20 Nov 2008 11:12:07 +0000 http://www.cruseit.com/?p=1189#comment-183 Hey Michael this is a great subject to cover, and you covered it well. Feedback is a tricky process as on the surface it's an exchange of information but underneath it's almost always an exchange of emotions and personal feelings. This is what makes it important, but also what makes it tough. Like you say Hearing feedback is tough. Giving feedback is tougher. Feedback is a gift. I recently covered feedback in my series on why personality is very important for leaders, and feedback is a way to check how we perceive ourselves differs (or not) from the perception of others. A big difference, I think, results in unpredictable behaviors and ultimately, bad leadership. My article: <a href="http://www.simonstapleton.com/wordpress/2008/11/17/as-a-leader-your-personality-is-everything-part-four/">As A Leader, Your Personality Is Everything (Part Four)</a> Hey Michael this is a great subject to cover, and you covered it well. Feedback is a tricky process as on the surface it’s an exchange of information but underneath it’s almost always an exchange of emotions and personal feelings. This is what makes it important, but also what makes it tough. Like you say

Hearing feedback is tough.
Giving feedback is tougher.

Feedback is a gift. I recently covered feedback in my series on why personality is very important for leaders, and feedback is a way to check how we perceive ourselves differs (or not) from the perception of others. A big difference, I think, results in unpredictable behaviors and ultimately, bad leadership.

My article: As A Leader, Your Personality Is Everything (Part Four)

]]> By: Sue Massey http://www.cruseit.com/2008/11/ask-and-you-shall-receive%e2%80%a6just-be-prepared-to-receive/comment-page-1/#comment-177 Sue Massey Sat, 15 Nov 2008 15:30:38 +0000 http://www.cruseit.com/?p=1189#comment-177 Well said Well said

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